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She Loves You But She Hates Her Engagement Ring!

She Loves You But She Hates Her Engagement Ring!

Andrew Wilson Andrew Wilson
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Don't Disappoint Her With The Engagement Ring You Give Her!

You've met the woman you want to marry. You've had discussions about your future as a couple, and although the time and place for your proposal might be a surprise, the actual question probably won't be. After all, who would want to propose marriage out of the blue, ready to be rejected? But what if she hates her engagement ring?

Why is it that with all the preparation for getting the proposal right, so many women secretly (or not so secretly) hate their engagement ring?

According to an article on the Daily Mail website, two-thirds of women are given engagement rings that they don't like. 

That's a big deal. Your wife to be will be wearing that ring almost every day for as long as you are married. We hope that's a lifetime. That's a very long time to wear a ring that she might hate but wears out of a sense of loyalty or duty.

It is hard to imagine that a woman who loves you and truly wants to be your wife will reject your proposal because she is disappointed with the engagement ring you slip onto her finger. But you certainly do not want to give her something that does not fill her with joy and pride whenever she sees the ring on her finger.

The Daily Mail article features four women, each unhappy with her engagement ring for different reasons. Each of them dealt with the situation differently, but the problem could have been avoided in each case.

A Huge Diamond – But It Is A Fake!

One of the women told readers that her husband-to-be took her on a romantic break to Venice. He popped the question on a moonlit walk in the city of love. A perfect location for a marriage proposal, memorable, symbolic, beautiful. She was impressed with the size of the ring, but her boyfriend ruined the moment when he sheepishly confessed that it was fake; cubic zirconia set in silver. He even told her it cost just £150! What was he thinking? How could that possibly be a winning move?

Charlotte, the bride-to-be, told him immediately that this was not a good choice and, to his credit, he suggested buying a ring together when they returned home. Seven years later, she is happy with the ring they chose together.

Guys, don't do anything like this! It is wrong on almost every level. He was lucky that she didn't end the relationship on the spot.

The Tiny Ring That Just Wasn't An Engagement Ring

Christine lives with an engagement ring that makes her feel sad every time she sees it. She has been wearing the wrong ring for 20 years!

Like many women, Christine had a good idea of her ideal engagement ring. In her mind, she saw an imposing diamond solitaire sparkling on her finger. What she got was a delicate little ring that she had pointed out to her boyfriend when she thought he was suggesting a Valentine's Day gift!

It took a couple of years before she could gather the courage to tell him about her feelings. He promised that they'd buy a replacement. Eighteen years later, she is still waiting and living in the hope that he will follow through on his promise!

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The Engagement Ring That Does Not Fit With Her Lifestyle

The next example of the wrong engagement ring is a little different. Rebecca's boyfriend had been looking at engagement rings with her, but they could not find a ring of the correct size. Time was running out, so in desperation, the guy purchased a ring that she had not seen.

Unfortunately, the design had a design that caused it to snag and catch on her clothes. It was completely different in style to any that they had looked at together – what was he thinking?

It took her fiancee a year to come up with a ring that suited her, a white gold ring with a solitaire diamond. Better late than never, but a little thought might've prevented a near disaster!

The Engagement Ring Was Not To Her Taste – So She Changed It In Secret

First, how can anyone change an engagement ring and keep it a secret? In this case, the boyfriend got everything wrong!

She likes yellow gold – he bought a platinum ring.

She wanted a teardrop (pear-shaped) diamond; he bought a round one.

She wanted a band with detailing; he bought a simple, undecorated band.

Jodie was afraid of hurting her man's feelings, so in secret, she had the ring covered in gold to match her other jewellery, which was all in yellow gold. The second time, after the gold wore off after just a few months, her husband noticed, and the truth came out.

The solution was to have the diamond set into a custom made band. She has learned to love the diamond (sounds like a compromise to us!), and the designer will create a slender yellow gold band with detail in the metal.

How To Choose A Ring That She Will Love and Cherish?

These stories show how men can get buying an engagement ring wrong. Sadly, each of these problems could have been avoided.

Here's how:

1)    Don't cheap out! Always use good quality precious metal. Unless you have discussed and agreed to it, never try to substitute a fake or imitation diamond for the real thing. Silver is cheap; it tarnishes and is too soft for a piece of jewellery designed to be worn every day for a lifetime.

Do the job right. If you cannot afford the ring of your dreams, then choose something within your budget, but make it real. You can always do like David Beckham does and buy another one, closer to what both of you want later on.

2)    If you buy a ring as a surprise, then do your research. If she only has yellow gold, don't buy a platinum or white gold engagement ring. If she has a clear preference, based upon her other jewellery, don't buy something that cannot sit well with those other pieces. She chose and wears those other pieces because that's what she likes!

3)    Make sure that whatever you choose and buy fits her lifestyle. If she works with her hands, select a design that can withstand some wear and is not subject to easy damage from impacts – a bezel set/rub over design would be much better than an exposed solitaire design.

4)    As far as possible, an engagement ring should be the best ring she has! Remember that an engagement ring is something very special. It is not the same as a ring one might give for a birthday or Valentine's gift.

5)    Never buy a ring at the last minute. Take your time and allow for delays and challenges in finding the ideal ring.

6)    Most important of all – is communication. That might be to manage her expectations if the budget is very tight. It might be to discover what she likes. Best of all might be finding a way to choose the ring together and involve her in the process. In my case, I discussed the purchase with my fiancee. We talked about a budget; she went off on her own to look at rings. Then we went shopping together. She had not chosen a particular ring, but she had an idea of what she wanted. We chose together, and we both loved the ring I purchased. She was so excited when I presented it to her, on my knee in a very special place on a very special occasion.

If you get these points right there is no way she hates her engagement ring! 

Buying An Engagement Ring From All Diamond

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Every item of jewellery we sell, apart from custom designs, has a 30-day return and exchange period so that if she is not delighted with what you place on her finger, you can change it for the perfect design with no fuss!

Here is our collection of beautiful diamond engagement rings – let our designers and artisans inspire you! Please don't put your girlfriend or wife to be into a difficult situation, do the job right. We will help you at every step along the way!

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